7 signs a Guy Likes You

It is another random thing that I was reading recently that caught my attention and I sorta figured I shall share it. Perhaps also passing a hint to someone special? :P

#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

Does this guy take the responsibility of completing a long list of works for you? Does he take care of all your needs only to be ensured that you are comfortable? Is he being extra nice to you and is taking care of the minutest of things? Does he remember all the important days of your life and does his level best to be by your side? Does he try to share his every moment with you to make you feel comfortable and happy? If you find these signs, then he certainly likes you.

#6 He talks about you to his friends

This is one bang-on sign where you will know very easily that he has developed a liking towards you. He talks about you to his friends and family and all of them know you. He involves you in his friendly birthday parties, family weddings and other events like picnics and get together hang out parties etc. He tries to take you along when going to a party as a couple. If you find him giving you a value as his special friend over his other girlfriends, then he surely likes you and is looking for a long term relationship with you

#5 He wishes to spend most of his time with you

He will try to create situations where you both could meet and spend time together. Often there are guys who would not express their feeling of liking for you in the first two or three meets. If he is a socially confident guy, then your topics during the meet might sound productive while if he is a confident friend of yours, then he might be flirtatious throwing paper balls at you or giving out compliments to make you smile. If he is an introvert, then you might find him smiling and asking you about the weather!

#4 He seems excited to see and talk to you

Now that he knows you and both of you are “friends”, he would try his best to find excuses and talk to you. He might find different ways to communicate his feelings towards you. You may suddenly receive his phone calls, emails and messages with a simple hello or a good night and sweet dreams. You will easily know if a guy is interested in you by way of his excitement to be and talk to you all the while. He certainly likes you girl!

#3 He does every bit to grab your attention

The approach of a guy towards a girl is entirely different when compared vice versa. The guy might make some excuses to come and talk to you every minute or hour for say. The guy might do every possible thing to accomplish your need of that hour. There are many guys who are reserved in nature and might not come up directly to talk to you. However, you might find their actions speaking! For example you might observe the guy being jealous or angry or upset when you are speaking to your other guy friends

#2 He is self-conscious when you are with him

Did you know that guys are more conscious when it comes to their looks, more importantly when they are on a date. He likes you if he is bothered about the way he is dressed up, his talks, his actions etc. He is self – conscious at all hours of his time with you only with a thought of what you might be thinking when he does or says something. There are many a time when he is often caught gazing at you. This is to understand your mind at that time for him. So, if he is self-conscious when you are around, then he likes you

#1 He looks at you with a smile

Guys are quite different from girls in way of expressing their liking or love towards the opposite sex. For guys it is usually seen that their eye catches a physically attractive girl. If you are someone whom he looks at every now and then even when people are around then it is certain that he likes you. It so happens that a guy will not make obvious approaches towards you but on the contrary will give seductive or smiley looks that will grab your attention. If you find him staring at you constantly with a smile on his face, then this is one sign that speaks his liking towards you

Enjoyed reading it? If you are a girl and I guess now perhaps you have a small idea if your crushes are into you or not. While to them fellow bros, try not to show too much of these and make it harder for them to guess. Savvy? xD

#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

Does this guy take the responsibility of completing a long list of works for you? Does he take care of all your needs only to be ensured that you are comfortable? Is he being extra nice to you and is taking care of the minutest of things? Does he remember all the important days of your life and does his level best to be by your side? Does he try to share his every moment with you to make you feel comfortable and happy? If you find these signs, then he certainly likes you.

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#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

The Last Word.

Probably most would have believed I was dead, but am here! Sorry I've been feeling that I've lost it and would never be able write anymore. However, I have forced myself from self posed exile to come back with some updates for you all from time to time.

Some would prolly be loading their guns to shoot me by now. *gulps* I have been going through a moment of transition personally which I would be writing about in the coming days. Anyhow, I would like to share with you all an article which I came across this morning.

Am not gonna saw what it is about but, it is about relationship. Everyone relationships go through periods of hardships. Storms come and go but they never stay. So this article is on how this lady overcame her pains which I think that is applicable to everyone of us. Read and digest guys.

The last word: He said he was leaving. She ignored him. 

By The Week Staff | August 13, 2009

When Laura Munson's husband asked for a divorce, she ducked instead of fighting. He needed to learn, she says, that his unhappiness wasn’t really about her 

Happiness starts within. Eventually, my husband got it.

Let’s say you have what you believe to be a healthy marriage. You’re still friends and lovers after spending more than half of your lives together. The dreams you set out to achieve in your 20s—gazing into each other’s eyes in candlelit city bistros, when you were single and skinny—have for the most part come true.

Two decades later you have the 20 acres of land, the farmhouse, the children, the dogs and horses. You’re the parents you said you would be, full of love and guidance. You’ve done it all: Disneyland, camping, Hawaii, Mexico, city living, stargazing.

Sure, you have your marital issues, but on the whole you feel so self-satisfied about how things have worked out that you would never, in your wildest nightmares, think you would hear these words from your husband one fine summer day: “I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did. I’m moving out. The kids will understand. They’ll want me to be happy.”

But wait. This isn’t the divorce story you think it is. Neither is it a begging-him-to-stay story. It’s a story about hearing your husband say, “I don’t love you anymore” and deciding not to believe him. And what can happen as a result.

Here’s a visual: Child throws a temper tantrum. Tries to hit his mother. But the mother doesn’t hit back, lecture or punish. Instead, she ducks. Then she tries to go about her business as if the tantrum isn’t happening. She doesn’t “reward” the tantrum. She simply doesn’t take the tantrum personally because, after all, it’s not about her.

Let me be clear: I’m not saying my husband was throwing a child’s tantrum. No. He was in the grip of something else—a profound and far more troubling meltdown that comes not in childhood but in midlife, when we perceive that our personal trajectory is no longer arcing reliably upward as it once did. But I decided to respond the same way I’d responded to my children’s tantrums. And I kept responding to it that way. For four months.

“I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did.”

His words came at me like a speeding fist, like a sucker punch, yet somehow in that moment I was able to duck. And once I recovered and composed myself, I managed to say, “I don’t buy it.” Because I didn’t.

He drew back in surprise. Apparently he’d expected me to burst into tears, to rage at him, to threaten him with a custody battle. Or beg him to change his mind.

So he turned mean. “I don’t like what you’ve become.”

Gut-wrenching pause. How could he say such a thing? That’s when I really wanted to fight. To rage. To cry. But I didn’t.

Instead, a shroud of calm enveloped me, and I repeated those words: “I don’t buy it.”

You see, I’d recently committed to a non-negotiable understanding with myself. I’d committed to “the End of Suffering.” I’d finally managed to exile the voices in my head that told me my personal happiness was only as good as my outward success, rooted in things that were often outside my control. I’d seen the insanity of that equation and decided to take responsibility for my own happiness. And I mean all of it.

My husband hadn’t yet come to this understanding with himself. He had enjoyed many years of hard work, and its rewards had supported our family of four all along. But his new endeavor hadn’t been going so well, and his ability to be the breadwinner was in rapid decline. He’d been miserable about this, felt useless, was losing himself emotionally and letting himself go physically. And now he wanted out of our marriage; to be done with our family.

But I wasn’t buying it.

I said: “It’s not age-appropriate to expect children to be concerned with their parents’ happiness. Not unless you want to create co-dependents who’ll spend their lives in bad relationships and therapy. There are times in every relationship when the parties involved need a break. What can we do to give you the distance you need, without hurting the family?”

“Huh?” he said.

“Go trekking in Nepal. Build a yurt in the back meadow. Turn the garage studio into a man-cave. Get that drum set you’ve always wanted. Anything but hurting the children and me with a reckless move like the one you’re talking about.”

Then I repeated my line, “What can we do to give you the distance you need, without hurting the family?”

“Huh?”

“How can we have a responsible distance?”

“I don’t want distance,” he said. “I want to move out.”

My mind raced. Was it another woman? Drugs? Unconscionable secrets? But I stopped myself. I would not suffer.

Instead, I went to my desk, Googled “responsible separation,” and came up with a list. It included things like: Who’s allowed to use what credit cards? Who are the children allowed to see you with in town? Who’s allowed keys to what?

I looked through the list and passed it on to him.

His response: “Keys? We don’t even have keys to our house.”

I remained stoic. I could see pain in his eyes. Pain I recognized.

“Oh, I see what you’re doing,” he said. “You’re going to make me go into therapy. You’re not going to let me move out. You’re going to use the kids against me.”

“I never said that. I just asked: What can we do to give you the distance you need ... ”

“Stop saying that!”

Well, he didn’t move out.

Instead, he spent the summer being unreliable. He stopped coming home at his usual 6 o’clock. He would stay out late and not call. He blew off our entire Fourth of July—the parade, the barbecue, the fireworks—to go to someone else’s party. When he was at home, he was distant. He wouldn’t look me in the eye. He didn’t even wish me “Happy Birthday.”

But I didn’t play into it. I walked my line. I told the kids: “Daddy’s having a hard time, as adults often do. But we’re a family, no matter what.” I was not going to suffer. And neither were they.

My trusted friends were irate on my behalf. “How can you just stand by and accept this behavior? Kick him out! Get a lawyer!”

I walked my line with them, too. This man was hurting, yet his problem wasn’t mine to solve. In fact, I needed to get out of his way so he could solve it.

I know what you’re thinking: I’m a pushover. I’m weak and scared and would put up with anything to keep the family together. I’m probably one of those women who would endure physical abuse. But I can assure you, I’m not. I load 1,500-pound horses into trailers and gallop through the high country of Montana all summer. I went through Pitocin-induced natural childbirth. And a Caesarean section without follow-up drugs. I am handy with a chain saw.

I simply had come to understand that I was not at the root of my husband’s problem. He was. If he could turn his problem into a marital fight, he could make it about us. I needed to get out of the way so that wouldn’t happen.

Privately, I decided to give him time. Six months.

I had good days and I had bad days. On the good days, I took the high road. I ignored his lashing out, his merciless jabs. On bad days, I would fester in the August sun while the kids ran through sprinklers, raging at him in my mind. But I never wavered. Although it may sound ridiculous to say, “Don’t take it personally” when your husband tells you he no longer loves you, sometimes that’s exactly what you have to do.

Instead of issuing ultimatums, yelling, crying, or begging, I presented him with options. I created a summer of fun for our family and welcomed him to share in it, or not—it was up to him. If he chose not to come along, we would miss him, but we would be just fine, thank you very much. And we were.

And, yeah, you can bet I wanted to sit him down and persuade him to stay. To love me. To fight for what we’ve created. You can bet I wanted to.

But I didn’t.

I barbecued. Made lemonade. Set the table for four. Loved him from afar.

And one day, there he was, home from work early, mowing the lawn. A man doesn’t mow his lawn if he’s going to leave it. Not this man. Then he fixed a door that had been broken for eight years. He made a comment about our front porch needing paint. Our front porch. He mentioned needing wood for next winter. The future. Little by little, he started talking about the future.

It was Thanksgiving dinner that sealed it. My husband bowed his head humbly and said, “I’m thankful for my family.”

He was back.

And I saw what had been missing: pride. He’d lost pride in himself. Maybe that’s what happens when our egos take a hit in midlife and we realize we’re not as young and golden anymore.

When life’s knocked us around. And our childhood myths reveal themselves to be just that. The truth feels like the biggest sucker-punch of them all: It’s not a spouse, or land, or a job, or money that brings us happiness. Those achievements, those relationships, can enhance our happiness, yes, but happiness has to start from within. Relying on any other equation can be lethal.

My husband had become lost in the myth. But he found his way out. We’ve since had the hard conversations. In fact, he encouraged me to write about our ordeal. To help other couples who arrive at this juncture in life. People who feel scared and stuck. Who believe their temporary feelings are permanent. Who see an easy out and think they can escape.

My husband tried to strike a deal. Blame me for his pain. Unload his feelings of personal disgrace onto me.

But I ducked. And I waited. And it worked.

THE END

 
This essay originally appeared in The New York Times. Used with permission. All rights reserved.

And I just realized this article was written couple of years ago. Life is never a bed of roses, even to get them roses, you have to go through the thorns. Will be coming with another update shortly! Thanks to those who have supported my blog all along. <3 nbsp="" p="">

I Don't Know

Once again am back here with another song that has captured my heart. Although I have said that I have decided on so many things, there still are things holding me back. But words doesn't come out as how I'd wish to convey them.

Hence I decided to pick this song which I'd been hearing in Heartstrings Drama. Oh yes, I am yet to finish watching it yet. Probably a day or 2 more then I'd be done with it though.

So here is the song that spoke my heart.

모르나 봐 

(M 시그널)

그댈 만나고 사랑을 하고 그런 사랑에 아파만 하고

Keudael mannago sarangeul hago keureon sarangae apaman hago

다가서지도 못한 채 바라보기만 하는 난 바보인가 봐요

Dagaseojido muthanche barabogiman haneun nan pabo ingga boa yo

그대가 울면 나도 울었고 그대 웃으면 나도 웃어요

Keudaega ulmyeon nado ureotgo keudae useumyeon nado useoyo

어린아이처럼 마냥 그대만 따라 하는 난 바보인가 봐

Orin a ee cheoreom ma nyang keudaeman ddara haneun nan pabo ingga boa

사랑한다고 말해도 못 듣나 봐

Saranghandago marhaedo mot deunna boa

사랑이라고 말해도 모르나 봐

Sarangirago marhaedo moreuna boa

가슴에 흐르는 내 눈물을 그댄 볼 수 없나 봐

Kaseumae heureuneun nae nunmureul keudaen bul su omna boa

그대 이름 불러봐도 못 듣나 봐

Keudae eereum bulleo boado mot deunna boa

그대뿐이라고 해도 모르나 봐

Keu dae ppunirago haedo moreuna boa

내 눈먼 사랑은 한심한 사랑은 할 수 없나 봐

Nae nun meon sarangeun hanshimhan sarangeun halsu omna boa

한번 이라도 돌아봐줘요 그대 뒤에서 내가 있어요

Hanbeon eerado ddoraboa juoyo keudae dwiyeseo naega isseoyo

다른 사랑에 지칠 때 다른 사랑에 아플 때 한번이라도

Ddareun sarangae jichil ddae ddareun sarangae apeul ddae hanbeonirado

사랑한다고 말해도 못 듣나 봐

Saranghandago marhaedo mot deunna boa

사랑이라고 말해도 모르나 봐

Sarangirago marhaedo moreuna boa

가슴에 흐르는 내 눈물을 그댄 볼 수 없나 봐

Kaseumae heureuneun nae nunmureul keuddaen bulsu omna boa

그대 이름 불러봐도 못 듣나 봐

Keudae eereum bulleo boado mut deunna boa

그대뿐이라고 해도 모르나 봐

Keudae ppunirago haedo moreuna boa

내 눈먼 사랑은 한심한 사랑은

Nae nunmeon sarangeun hanshimhan sarangeun

오늘도 수천 번 그댈 불러봐요

Oneuldo sucheon beon keudael bulleo boayo

못 듣는 것도 알면서 불러봐요

Mot deunneun keotto almyeonseo bulleo boa yo

그대를 사랑하니까 나를 봐요

Keudaereul saranghanikka nareul boayo

그대만 사랑하니까 내게 와요

Keudaeman saranghanikka naegae wayo

한걸음만 오면 그 자리에서 나 기다릴게요

Hangeoreum man omyeon keu chariyaeseona kidarilkaeyo

그대밖에는 몰라서 미안해요

Keudae bakkaeneun mullaseo mianhaeyo

그대가 아니면 나는 안되니까

Keudaega animyeon naneun andwenikka

지독한 사랑이 그대만 불러요 그댄 모르죠

Jidokhan sarangi keudaeman bulleoyo keudaen moreujyo

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English Translation:

You Don’t Know 

(M Signal)

I met you, loved you and hurt by that love

Just looking at you without being beside you, I’m a fool.

When you cried, I cried. When you smiled, I smiled.

Like a child, just following you whatever you do, I’m a fool.

I love you but you can’t hear it

I love you but you don’t know it

I shed teardrops in my heart but you don’t see it

I call out your name but you  can’t hear it.

You are the only one for me but you don’t know it.

My love is blind, my love is poignant, and I can’t do that.

Just turn around and I’m right here behind you.

When you’re tired of someone else’s  love, hurt by someone else’s love

Just turn around once.

I love you but you can’t hear it

I love you but you don’t know it

I shed teardrops in my heart but you don’t see it

I call out your name but you can’t hear it.

You are the only one but you don’t know it.

My love is blind, my love is poignant, and I can’t do that.

Today I call you a thousand times..

Even though you can’t hear it.

I love you so, please look at me

I love you so, please come to me

Please come one step closer, I will wait for you.

I’m sorry because I only know you

I’m nothing without you.

Because of this bitter love, I call for you.

You don’t know…

NOTE: It is normal to have problems during relationships and it is normal that things may not go as you wish but there are ways to solve them. We may never know our partner's problems completely and may jump onto our own conclusions. We are just human beings and it's normal. But because of some petty issues, don't throw away that person you love and love itself because you may never know if it was the 1 that you'd have been longing for. 

There is no remorse nor point in crying over spilled milk but there is still ways of mending a relationships because wounds can always heal, and scars can go away. If you lost love, chances are it may never be the same anymore. Good luck to my fellow friends who are battling it out. *hugs to all*

It is time to move~

Once again am back here today but although the topic sounds like a potential emo post coming up, I am pretty much feeling okay about this. Just felt that this is the only way I could convey what I wanted to say as I am not being given the chance to do it right.

I have come to realize a lot of things recently and basically I just want to let it all out as I really would like to have a new start and lead my life on.

It's been a difficult period of time for the past few months as I was trying to pick myself back up after that particular night. I still remember that time when you'd won't even wanna look at my face.

"We were both young when I first saw you. I close my eyes and the flashback starts~" - Love Story (Taylor Swift). I still remember everything as if it wasn't that long ago since we knew each other.

I'm not going to stress over you anymore. I still remember the promise I made to you, I told you I'd never ask you to choose between me and your family. Although there times when I seemed to have forgotten it, now I've learned to accept it and respect it.

 I'm not trying to say I don't want you, because I definitely do but I'm taking my heart back and leaving the pieces on the floor. Despite the memories I can't do this anymore.

Before I was so scared of losing you, of not being able to hear your voice, your laughter, feel your arms around me but now I know that those are things I wouldn't ever be able to forget, things I can't lose because they'll forever be a part of me and who I am.

Tremendous amount of memories we've created and I will treasure them and I never regret.

"If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience." -Victoria Holt

1 thing I can surely say is that you'll never be gone from my heart. Part of me will always love you. But it's okay, because I've let you go. I hope you'll have a great life. I know I will from now on.

It wasn't easy to cope I'll admit. But am kinda proud of myself that I've managed to pick myself to even reach to this level where I can even learn to accept your wish despite all of what mine are. 

You've helped me to grow up by teaching me a lot of things. Even now I find it hard to believe who I am right now compared to who I used to be when I first met you.

I thought I'd be singing it like,

"Marry me, Juliet, you'll never have to be alone.
I love you, and that's all I really know.
I talked to your dad ‒ go pick out a white dress
It's a love story, baby, just say, "Yes". - Love Story (Taylor Swift)

But who who'd have thought.

 “There is a time for departure, even when there is no certain place to go.”  -  Tennessee William

Probably this is my time to depart and search for my next destination while I watched you depart long time ago. 

"Written with a pen, sealed with a kiss" they say.

I didn't lose you. I let you go. I didn't get over you. I moved on. When you truly love someone, you never lose them or get over them. They'll always mean something to you.

Though there parts of me thinking that probably I didn't fight hard enough to safe what we had, but relationships are like glasses. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.

However still, I am glad that it happened and no regrets about it. I still have 1 last wish though, while we work our ways to lead our own lives back on track, I'd just wish to have our last cup of coffee together to let things end on a nicer note.

I was turned down once but I'm asking for it once more. I understand and respect your decisions but this is just my last wish from you.

I am not sure how this post will effect you, regardless of whatever or however it does, I am sorry. I had no other way and keeping it within me was difficult. I'll always miss you.  Probably you could be one who who got away. No matter where you are, what you are doing, who you are with, or whatever, I will still care about you.

Day 01 - Your current relationship, if single discuss how single life is.

LOL kinda abit late for Day 01 post right? I know. Well there is nothing to hide anymore as now I know exactly what my status is. I am SINGLE! Probably that might have got a few eyes popped out big, cause a lot of people that knew me gave the exact same reactions.

I finally got myself out of my previous relationship of 2 and half years. Though a lot of people thought it was a bad relationship, in my point of view, I think that was 1 of my best memories in my life. Probably you might wonder than why end it right? Sometimes, you have to let go to be able to learn to move forward.

I think the previous relationship really made me a whole new person in so many ways. How my temper is under control, how I try to read a situation, how I think and act and etc. I wouldn't deny the fact that I still miss her, love her but I had to let go.

I am selfish. I couldn't get what I wanted and that got me frustrated. What I wanted so badly that I got frustrated? You might wonder but I ain't telling... *wink wink* Get to know me better than you will get the answer. Deal?

Nobody can actually comprehend the bond we shared, even us. Because regardless of what happened, we ended up going back to each other all the time. We had a huge load of hurdles to pass and I would say we came through quite well most of the time.

Now, after the whole issue I find things are very different. Life is like a whole new experience to me. Meeting new people, going out on random dates (friendly dates), doing crazy things and all seems to be whole new thing for me. I don't remember the time when I last felt I wasn't exactly off a relationship as I was always in 1.

At this point of time, I ain't gonna rush into a relationship. I am going to take things at my own pace this time around. If I meet someone who is suitable, or that someone comes back with what I want maybe it might change my mind. Is that a hint? I seriously don't know.

I know the fact that walking away from this relationship was the biggest ever move I've ever made in my life in 23 years! Might sound ridiculous to most but that's the truth. Yet still, I think I had 1 of the best moments in my life with her and I ought to thank her for it.

Thank you sayang! I had the best time with you and I will cherish those memories! *hugs*

Wait! I am supose to be talking about my single life right? LOL ok coming back to the topic!

Single life, hmm.... Let me see, I've been on and off work, sleep, yum cha, random dates, and 2 photoshoots! Basically that's all I been doing! And the dates, was merely anything close to romantic. I'd say too friendly to have anything going on. And I am actually looking for more as meeting new people gives new things for me talk about, new experiences, and I don't know what else. LOL

So if you think you wanna know me, then buzz me up and we shall arrange for a meet up! =)

Sorry for this backdated post guys. And not to forget, I am really sorry as I am unable to update as much recently with work, being sick, and a lot more other stuffs. Once settled with things, I am sure you can hope for more doses from me! =)